Hereâs what podcast cohosts Jonathan Goodman, Carolina Belmares, and Ren Jones talked about this week on the Online Trainer Show: In Episode 43, The Danger of Comparing Yourself to Other Online Trainers, Jon hangs a lantern on one of the dumbest ways we torture ourselves: Getting jealous of someone whoâs not even doing something you care about, or would want to be involved in. Itâs not the actual work they do that triggers us, Jon adds. Itâs the fact theyâre
being celebrated for it, while weâre left staring at our phone or inbox, wondering why nobodyâs talking about us. The best defense against irrational, ego-crushing comparisons is to think about it from the other partyâs point of view. As Ren notes, our perception of a successful person is very different from the way they see themselves. âNobody ever âarrives,ââ he says. When it looks like somebody âgotâ somewhere, keep in mind that, in their mind, theyâre nowhere close to where they want to end up. So how do you get past these insidious comparisons? Remind yourself of what you donât know. You donât know their starting point, their goals, their business structure, or their profit margins. What looks like success from the outside might feel like an endless struggle to someone who knows better. Among the consequences of jealousy are the ways we try to limit the psychic damage. That brings us to
the subject of Episode 44, How to Stop Making Excuses and Grow Through Hardship. Two things to get out of the way: - Not every excuse is invalid.
- Not everything we make excuses for not doing is actually important or realistic.
As Jon says, âOn any given day, thereâs just too much.â Too many posts to
read, too many people to connect with, too many projects to begin. âItâs this impossible problem.â What matters are the things we can achieve, want to achieve, fail to achieve, and then find excuses for not achieving. Itâs easy to tell yourself you donât have enough time (when you actually have plenty) or money (when the potential return on an expenditure is far beyond the cost) to do something you consider important. Carolina offers a straightforward way to stop making excuses: âFor me, change happens when this current situation is no longer tolerable.â Even when your situation isnât especially dire, ask yourself what you would do if you couldnât live one more day without doing the thing youâve been avoiding. And then do what it takes to ensure
you never reach that point. Youâll find every episode here: -->Â The Online Trainer Show
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